What determines who you are ?

I recently heard a quote about life.  "Life is not made by the dreams that you dream but by the choices that you make".  We as humans can make all kinds of choices ranging from really bad, "average", ok, good, excellent choices.  I think that whatever choice we, I, make ,.. it will influence how we think and or operate in life. God has known us before we were born, He designed us to be someone special with unique gifts and talents. But our choices in life, I think, can suppress or bring forth that design. If this were not true, why is there so much human suffering and damage in the lives of people you meet. I'm not talking about what you see when you first meet someone, but who they really are when the fig leaf (self protective actions, emotional barriers, etc.,) come down. Every situation seems to offer more than one way to respond.  In Phillipians 1:10 Paul writes "approve the things that are excellent."  It seems that the right thing to do would be to move toward what is "excellent" and let people see you and feel your weighty-ness that God has put into your specific design, past our personal, natural self protective responses.  Make a mindful effort to live your life full of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. (Galatians 5:22-23)  In doing that, I believe that the people around you will "see God" in action.  It will be amazing to see and experience the ripple effect of your choices (actions) as your "godly-ness" goes out among the people.